Updated August 7, 2025 | Lisbeth Cano
When caring for an aging parent, managing incontinence is a common challenge. It affects many seniors and impacts their daily lives.
Understanding incontinence and the products available can make a significant difference in their comfort and dignity.
Incontinence is the involuntary loss of urine or feces. It is not inevitable with age, but it becomes more common in older adults.
Incontinence can lead to:
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Understanding the cause is key to proper treatment.
Don’t delay medical care. Talk to your parent’s doctor if they experience leakage, frequent urges, or wetting accidents.
Many products are designed to meet specific needs and levels of leakage.
If the product is too large, it may leak. If too tight, it can cause rashes or discomfort.
Look for a sizing guide based on waist and hip measurements when ordering.
Knowing the purpose of each product helps make better choices.
Pads and pull-ups are designed for people with light to moderate leakage who prefer more freedom of movement.
They are easy to wear and change discreetly without assistance.
Adult briefs help with heavier incontinence and are often used in clinical or home care settings.
“Absorbent briefs like Depends are commonly used post-surgery or for heavy incontinence; changing frequency varies by individual, sometimes up to 7–8 times daily initially.” 2
Guards are designed specially for men and protect against splashes or drips, worn inside normal boxers or briefs.
They are discreet and comfortable for those with mild leakage.
Catheters may be prescribed when urination is not possible or for specific conditions. Types include:
Always follow hygiene protocols to prevent infection.
Available in reusable and disposable forms, underpads:
Only use these devices after consulting a urologist or gynecologist.
Getting the most out of products supports both hygiene and confidence.
This varies depending on type and leakage.
Frequent changes help prevent odor and skin problems.
“Skin protection is essential; use of barrier creams such as petroleum jelly can prevent urine-related skin irritation.” 3
“Incontinence products are small and discreet, easily carried in a purse or backpack. Having extra supplies and spare clothes is recommended when going out.” 4
Many brands now make products with soft fabrics and low-profile cuts.
This can help maintain your parent’s dignity and self-confidence.
Pricing varies widely by type, brand, and quantity.
Medicare does not pay for adult diapers or other incontinence supplies 5.
Families will typically need to cover these costs out of pocket.
To read more about coverage, visit Medicare Coverage Guide.
You are not alone. Many organizations offer resources for seniors and caregivers.
Choosing the right product helps restore comfort and control.
Talk to your loved one and their doctor about which options make the most sense for your situation.
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Meet the author: Lisbeth Cano earned her medical degree from Universidad de Iberoamérica in Costa Rica and worked as a doctor before becoming a clinical researcher. She now focuses on senior care, writing evidence-based guides for SeniorCanvas.com to help families make safer, smarter decisions for aging parents.