Updated August 7, 2025 | Lisbeth Cano
Making decisions about a loved one's future living situation can feel overwhelming, especially when assisted living becomes a consideration.
Families often face challenges understanding the options, handling complex paperwork, and navigating emotional transitions.
This guide provides a clear checklist to help you through each step of the process. Proactive planning can simplify choices, ensure dignity for your loved one, and provide peace of mind for your family.
Before you begin looking at facilities, gather essential financial and legal documents.
“Being prepared and having important documents in a single place can give you peace of mind, help ensure your wishes are honored, and ease the burden on your loved ones.” 1
“A durable power of attorney gives a designated person authority to handle financial matters... A living will spells out health care wishes...” 2
Store documents in a secure, accessible location.
➤ See Financial Planning for Elder Care
Take an honest look at care needs — now and in the future.
Professional assessments or online caregiver tools can help.
“Caregiver stress is common and can cause emotional and physical health issues...” 3
Know your own limits. Explore respite care options for support.
➤ See Avoiding Caregiver Burnout
Start your search using trusted directories:
When visiting:
Tour at different times to observe:
➤ Read How to Find Senior Living
Bring a checklist and ask:
“Most assisted living facilities provide meals, housekeeping, medication help... and care for Alzheimer’s patients.” 4
➤ See Understanding Assisted Living Contracts
➤ See Questions to Ask on Tours
Look for:
Ask about:
Check if common areas are inviting and used regularly.
Even in a facility, safety matters.
“Falls are the leading cause of injuries for those 65+… Older adults who fall are over 4x more likely to enter a nursing facility.” 5
➤ Resources:
“The median monthly rent for assisted living units is $4,300, with most people paying some or all of the cost out of pocket.” 6
| Type of Care | Average Monthly Cost |
|---|---|
| Assisted Living | $4,300 |
| Memory Care | Higher (varies) |
| Nursing Home (semi-private) | $7,756 |
| Nursing Home (private) | $8,821 |
➤ Learn more:
Moving is emotional. Ease the process with support.
Legal support can also help with this step.
➤ Use the Assisted Living Move Checklist
Support is available at every stage.
Don’t try to do it all on your own.
Choosing assisted living is a major decision—but with a clear checklist, it becomes more manageable.
This guide helps you:
Open communication and proactive planning ensure that your loved one receives dignified care — and your family gains lasting peace of mind.
https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-planning/getting-your-affairs-order-checklist-documents-prepare-future ↩
https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/caregivers-legal-checklist/ ↩
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/caregiver-stress/art-20044784 ↩
https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/basics/assisted-living-options/ ↩
https://acl.gov/ltc/housing/staying-in-your-home/avoiding-a-fall ↩
https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/basics/assisted-living-options/ ↩
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Meet the author: Lisbeth Cano earned her medical degree from Universidad de Iberoamérica in Costa Rica and worked as a doctor before becoming a clinical researcher. She now focuses on senior care, writing evidence-based guides for SeniorCanvas.com to help families make safer, smarter decisions for aging parents.